Why don’t we say, I love you?

Why don’t we say, I love you?


Why don’t we say I love you to each other enough? I don’t mean that we walk around telling everybody that we see or meet, hey, I love you! I’m talking about saying I love you to the ones that we really love, our mothers, fathers, wife’s, kids and brothers and sisters, etc. The ones that we “do” love.
I believe we have built some walls of fear that hold us back. Or we are maybe ashamed to say it. Funny, ashamed to say I love you. We are very quick to say I hate you or what you do makes me mad. Huh, that rather seems backwards to me. I would think that saying mean and hurtful things to each other would make us feel ashamed, not I love you. It’s so simple to just let go and tell someone what you think.
Maybe it comes from how we were raised. Meaning, some families are close and hug each other and some families are the “shake hands” types. You know even the mothers and the sons and daughters. They seem to not be able to show their affection to one another. As for myself, I came from a “hugging” family. When we come into the house when we have not seen a family member in a day or two, we go up and hug them. It’s not as if we are dropping all of our guards down (not that we should have any to drop, this is our family) and letting ourselves be vulnerable. You just have to be yourself. Let someone love you, for you “do” love him or her.
When we see our friends, I mean our true friends, we don’t find many of us just going up to them and saying hello and giving them a friendly hug and say; “hey, how have you been doing?” Is that so hard? Is that so personal that we feel uncomfortable. We should just, feel. We don’t seem to feel anymore. We just seem to react, react to the daily bad news, the bad day we are having, the way our day is going. We do not control our days anymore they control us. We let what we see as bad things come in to our minds and “make” up our day’s format. We seem to only want to take in the bad. I know you are saying, “well, I don’t do that”, but you are one of the first ones to say, “on my way to work today, this guy cut me off on the expressway and really made me mad and it just screwed up the rest of my day”, or “My wife said something to me before I left today and it really pissed me off and now I just don’t even want to be here.” This is what I mean, we are not feeling anymore. We are just reacting. We are letting bad reactions from others, come in to our lives and keeping us from feeling. Try feeling “love.” Try feeling love for others. Try showing love for each other. Try saying, I love you. At least try saying it to the ones you really love.
All I am really trying to say here is, if you “do” love someone, why not tell him or her. We never know when the last time we will see someone. We may loose that opportunity to tell some one we love them. It’s not hard to say and it does not cost you any money. So try it.
And by the way, I love you!

By: Jay Bailey